Below is my very brief summary of the course. If you are considering taking the course, don’t read this summary. This will spoil all the fun for you. Just go ahead and do the course.
If you don’t consider taking the course, please think again. It is really an amazing course and both of my summaries probably miss a lot of details. You will get much more by going through the course (it is only ~19 hours) and doing all the revirements and seeing all the research. Please do the course, you will like it and understand what I mean!
This summary is also too brief to make sense on its own. This is rather a cheat-sheet for people who took the entire course. Taking the course (or at least reading my larger summary) would explain a lot of the items below.
Ok, now let’s get started with a brief summary. Reading through everything in my “large” summary is possible, but takes a lot of time. Thus, I would like to summarize my summary even more and write something short, which I could quickly reread when I feel like I started to forget the details.
We are wrong
We think that having a good job, high salary, money, awesome stuff, true love, a perfect face/body or good grades will make us happy. Actually we miswant these (i.e. are mistaken about how much we will like something in the future), because of annoying features of our minds:
- Our mind strongest intuitions are often totally wrong
- We judge everything relative to (often irrelevant) reference points (e.g. other people or what we had before)
- Hedonic adaptation - our minds are built to get used to stuff (both positive and negative)
- We don’t know about this adaptation and overestimate effects of negative and positive changes in our lives (due to focalism and immune neglect). You will be fine if you fail.
What to do?
- Prefer (non-material) experiences to physical stuff.
- Anticipate them
- Talk about them with others
- Savour - step outside of an experience to review and appreciate it fully while it is still happening.
- Laugh, giggle, express energy physically (jumping, yelling)
- Think how lucky and proud you are
think about future, don’t remind yourself that experience will be over or could be better or will never be so good again
- Express gratitude
- Tell other people if you are grateful to them
- Once a week write 5 items from the last week, which you are grateful for (take time to feel it through)
- Reset your reference points
- After a positive change, re-experience your previous state (either remember or find a real example)
- Curate information which you let into your life (e.g. no social media, no TV)
- Interrupt your consumption - split awesome things you love (and vice versa - squish all bad things together to use hedonic adaptation)
- Increase variety and choose proper timing (don’t eat an ice cream 40 seconds after the previous one)
- Want right things
- Employing signature strengths in your career
- Getting into “flow” both at work and at leisure
- Growth mindset (“I can grow through hard work”) instead of fixed (
“talent is fixed”)
- Intrinsic motivation (doing something due to enjoying the activity itself) instead of extrinsic (due to external rewards)
- Opportunities to do acts of kindness (even small, even to random people)
- Social connections (even talking to strangers)
- Time affluence (feeling of having enough time to do things you actually want)
- Controlling your mind (i.e. decreasing mind-wandering through meditation)
- Enough sleep (and of good quality)
How to implement?
Just knowing is not sufficient. Strategies for better habits:
- Situation support (fix bad environments, promote healthy environments)
- Set specific goals (e.g. quantitative). Specificity gives you a plan how to achieve the goal
- Visualize goals: positive outcome followed by possible obstacles
- Implementation intention through “if then” plans
The last 3 can be combined into WOOP method:
- Think about your (optionally the most important for now) wish (as specific as possible)
- Its best outcome
- Potential obstacles
- Your if/then plan
This links the obstacle to the wish together with instruments to overcome it and helps to recognize existence of the obstacle